It was the time of summers when I got my menstruation cycle for the first time. I still remember that day, I was crying and was full of doubts that what exactly happened to me. I came home all worried and crying, asked my mum to talk to me in personal. She immediately left everything and came in my room. The first thing I told my mum was. I am bleeding, and I don’t know why. Mum smiled and said she knew some changes were happening to my body.
She acted normal and explained me the whole process. I was still ashamed as I was the first one in my class to get it (aaaand I dint know about it). I never told my classmates about it. But one small talk to mum changed the whole prospective about it. The summers in Gurgaon are very cruel so we used to sleep in the balcony. As I was sleeping in the night and new to these changes to my body. I was carefree and was sleeping in the ease. The next morning I woke and saw there were stains all over my PJs and rushed to washroom to take a bath and get ready for the school.
I thought nobody knew about it as I woke up so early and took care of everything. Next day sitting in the evening discussing things with mum. The same topic got raised and I told my mum about it. She smiled and said “Papa saw the stains last night”. I was shocked and got embarrassed at the same time. I started apologizing to mum for not taking care (As nobody’s supposed to know that it’s “that time of the month”). My mum stopped me in between and said why you apologizing it’s all natural. What made the major change were the words my father told my mother. He was not ashamed that he saw my stains, instead my father said “Beti badi ho rahi hai” (My daughter is getting older).
My father had tears in his eyes as being a father of three daughters; he was happy and sad at the same time. Happy, as their daughters were taking small steps towards womanliness and were sad, as we will not be their little kids anymore.
We were always taught to be free and open-minded in our approach. What made me more proud was the way my father responded to this. I never had to buy sanitary pads in black poly bags or in newspapers. I never have to hide my sanitary pads packet from my dad and brother. I was never told to stay out of the holy places even if it’s “that time of the month”. My parents are not very educated; however their approach towards life and giving us the power to shine is our strength.
A small gesture towards the most normal thing in this world by my parents changed lot of things for me and my prospective. Start embracing and stop being embarrassed about this. For all the fathers in the world, your daughters will be your little princesses forever, just embrace the new change in her life!
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